“Caught You in a Lie” happened…

A day has gone by, this is the 1st of February and I am reflecting on Caught You
a lie, the performance. Not the book, but the performance.

Wow, I feel so overwhelmed. I have actually just come back from doing a gig, and my voice is terrible at the moment. I feel absolutely exhausted, but I love what I do—and even more, I love inspiring people. I’m just so happy, I’m so proud of myself, I’m going to say openly I am proud of me. I am proud of myself for taking a bet on me and walking in bravery, that’s being brave in action, that’s what bravery is and through this action I have created and curated a play, a musical play, a one-woman show.

The Feedback…

The feedback has been absolutely incredible and overwhelming at the same time.

So I just want to again thank everyone who supported and came out, those of you
sent me messages. You know who you are and yes, yes and yes again we are taking
this on the road.

How are we going to do it? 

God knows!! He knows and He will make the provision. But there’s no turning back now. It’s all good and it’s all love. 

What now…

And I just want to encourage somebody, if you are out there and you’re listening to this and you want to do something, you desire to change your life, to live your life differently but you don’t know how then I am running the empowered woman sessions, actually it’s 12 sessions and it will help you to move forward in your life, get out of your way, become unstuck and really live your life on purpose, because that’s what this is about, purpose is calling. 

So if you are interested I’m going to put a link below there will be a link and click on the link and book, the course actually starts on February 26th. The course is going to be delivered by me personally. So if you were inspired, if you’ve been inspired by just looking at my social media, you didn’t attend and you want to find your voice, you want to create a different life then click the link and join me for the empowered women hybrid. It’s a hybrid course, here’s live events, there’s three live sessions and the rest are online.

If you want to join the waitlist for Caught You In A Lie just follow this link – you’ll be the first to know when I have news about dates and tickets.

So come and join me. I’ll see you there, ciao

Honouring Juliana, Kyle, and Giselle: A Reflection on Domestic Abuse and Family Homicide

As a domestic abuse case manager, I have spent years witnessing the devastating impact of violence within the home. It is with profound sadness that I reflect on the tragic murders of Juliana Falcon, 48, and her children, Kyle, 16, and Giselle, 13, in Luton last September. These were three “wonderful individuals” whose lives were taken in an act of unimaginable cruelty.

Juliana was described as a “strong, loving mother, always putting others first.” Kyle was “kind and funny,” and Giselle was a “beautiful soul.” Their loss has left an irreplaceable void in the lives of their loved ones and the wider community. In reviewing the court reports, the details are harrowing: not only were their deaths brutal, but they were also premeditated by the person they should have been safest with—their own family member.

The killer, whose name does not deserve repetition, sought fame for his actions.

He planned not only the murders of his mother and siblings but also a mass shooting at a local primary school. Disturbingly, he later disclosed in prison that he had intended to sexually assault his sister. This was not an impulsive act but a carefully plotted attack driven by a deep-seated desire for destruction and notoriety.

In her sentencing, Mrs. Justice Cheema-Grubb acknowledged the horror the victims endured in their final moments, the “anguish of anticipating or hearing the death of others.” And yet, even in their deaths, Juliana, Kyle, and Giselle likely saved lives. Their tragic murders exposed a looming, far more catastrophic event, ensuring that no other families would suffer at the hands of the killer.

The Intersection of Domestic Abuse and Homicide

This case painfully underscores the connection between domestic abuse and family homicide. While not all domestic abuse results in murder, the patterns of coercion, control, and escalating violence can be chillingly predictive. Many who commit family homicide have histories of manipulative, violent, or controlling behavior.
It raises crucial questions: Were there warning signs? Did Juliana, Kyle, or Giselle live in fear before that night? Could intervention have changed this outcome?

In many cases, the most dangerous time for victims is when they try to leave or resist control. While we may never fully understand the dynamics in this household, the reality is that domestic abuse often festers in silence. Victims may not recognise the danger they are in, or they may feel trapped by emotional, financial, or psychological barriers.

A Community’s Response

For the family and friends of Juliana, Kyle, and Giselle, there is no solace that can erase their pain. As Ray Prosper, their father, statement in court, “The pain of our loss will never be healed.” His grief is immeasurable, compounded by the incomprehensible reality that his son was responsible.
We send condolences for his loses.

As a community, we must do more to recognise and act on the warning signs of domestic abuse before it escalates. If you are worried about someone, speak up. If you are in danger, know that there is help available. No one should feel unsafe in their own home.

Earlier this month, I attended the Million Woman March on International Women’s Day, where we read aloud the names of women & children murdered by family members, ex-partners, and partners. 113 babes were read out including the names of Juliana’s, Kyle & Giselle – Year after year, we remember the victims & call out their names And yet, very little seems to change.

What Can We Learn?

This was not just an act of random violence; it was an act of misogyny and power. The killer wanted to rape his sister. He wanted to kill children. He wanted to be infamous. This is the deadliest manifestation of male violence—and it does not come out of nowhere.
We must ask:
•⁠ ⁠Are we recognising the warning signs of extreme misogyny and violent ideation early enough?
•⁠ ⁠Are families given enough support when a loved one shows signs of dangerous behavior?
•⁠ ⁠Are schools, social services, and mental health professionals equipped to intervene in cases where someone expresses violent intentions?

We have had these conversations before. After Sarah Everard, Bibaa Henry, Nicole Smallman, Sabina Nessa, Zara Aleena—we called their names. After the many mothers, daughters, sisters, and boys killed by men in their own homes—we called their names.

And we call them again now: Juliana. Kyle. Giselle.

But calling their names is not enough. Where is the change?

A Call To Action…

The pain felt by the family, the surviving loved ones, and the wider community is immeasurable. As Ray Prosper, the father of all three children, said in his statement : “The pain of our loss will never be healed.”
We send prayes & best wishes to the entire family & friends.

Juliana, Kyle, and Giselle should be here today. Their names must not be just another set of names called at a march. They should be a turning point.

We owe them more than just remembrance. We owe them change.

We must demand:
•⁠ ⁠A full Domestic Homicide Review into this case. (Domestic Abuse Related Death Review)
•⁠ ⁠Better early intervention when boys and young men show signs of violent misogyny.
•⁠ ⁠More support for mothers experiencing domestic abuse or coercive control in their homes.
•⁠ ⁠A commitment from the government to take violence against women and girls as seriously as terrorism.

Honouring Their Legacy

Juliana, Kyle, and Giselle deserved long, full lives. Their memories should not be overshadowed by the horror of what happened to them, but rather honored through action. We must continue raising awareness about domestic abuse, ensuring that those at risk receive the support and protection they need. Their deaths must not be in vain.
Let’s remember to pray for this grieving family.

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, in any shape or form please reach out to local services for support. There is help, and there is hope.

Written by:
Yvonne Michele

If you don’t know about this case here is a link to an article on Sky News that gives the horrific details of what HE did and how his amazing mother prevented there being far more deaths.

Remembering Diane Clearly and the 112 Other Beautiful Lives Lost to Domestic Abuse.

As each name was called, my heart shattered. And tears streamed from my eyes, the eary silence and harsh truth – 113 lives lost. Another year. More women and children taken by violence. When will it end?

Most were killed by a man they knew—a partner, an ex, a family member. Not by a stranger in a dark alley, but by someone they trusted. Murdered in their own homes—the very place that should have been their sanctuary.

Among them were Juliana Falcon (48), Kyle Prosper (16), and Giselle Prosper (13)—their futures stolen. And here, in my own town of Luton, four lives were taken. It feels raw. Too close. Too real. Because it is.

We all stood together at the Million Women Protest March, walking in solidarity, grief, and defiance. But honouring them is not enough—we must demand change.

So, what will end this?

1.⁠ ⁠Stronger laws and enforcement. Domestic abusers must face real consequences before it’s too late.

2.⁠ ⁠Education from an early age. Boys must be taught that control is not love.
3.⁠ ⁠⁠Girls must be empowered to recognise red flags.
4.⁠ ⁠Funding for women’s refuges and support services. No woman should be turned away when she seeks safety.
5.⁠ ⁠A shift in culture. No more silence. No more “it’s not my business.” Every one of us has a role in stopping this.
6.⁠ ⁠⁠Protection orders must be stronger, properly enforced, and carry real consequences when breached.

Right now, too many women get restraining orders against violent partners, yet those partners continue to harass, stalk, and even kill them—often with little to no intervention from authorities. A protection order should be more than just a piece of paper; it should come with:

Immediate police response when breached
Serious legal consequences, including jail time
Electronic monitoring for high-risk offenders
Automatic risk assessments to prevent escalation
Without proper enforcement, these orders fail to protect the very people they are meant to safeguard. Women shouldn’t have to live in fear after seeking help. A system that fails to act until it’s too late is a system that must change.

To the families left behind—I see you. I hold space for your pain. And to every woman and girl living in fear—you are not alone.

We must turn remembrance into #ActionInMotion. We must #AccelerateAction. Until no more names are added to this list.

IWD2025

Freedom Friday – He didn’t hit me!

Freedom Friday

When your honest with your self you set yourself free

This poem is about a woman’s journey to free herself from Domestic Abuse

There is always a way out of tre darkness , just follow the light inside and be brave ❤️

He just went through my phone every time I was in the shower,
Provoking fights that would last for hours,
Always apologizing with a bouquet of flowers.
He didn’t hit me.
He just hated all my friends.
Told me they were no good and that I should just stay in.
He was careful to always remind me I was unworthy,
And any time I spoke to a man, he would accuse me of being flirty.
He laughed, saying no one else would ever love me,
Making me feel nothing but useless and ugly.
He didn’t hit me.
He would just break my things on the rare occasions I decided to go out,
Coming home to his aggressive shouts.
He just deleted all my contacts who were men,
Telling me to never speak to them again.
He didn’t hit me.
He just wouldn’t listen when I said no,
Every day stealing a little more of my glow.
He would criticize my appearance,
Calling me stupid, every day weakening my resilience.
He didn’t hit me.
He would just threaten his own life when I would try to leave,
A burden no 19-year-old should receive.
He didn’t hit me.
He just made me hate myself every day.
Worried how the hell I would get away.
He didn’t hit me.
Until one day, he overheard a call.
Hearing that I was leaving, he pushed me toward the wall.
But, he didn’t hit me.

The Hope Gala Ball is raising money to help survivors of domestic abuse move forward. There’s only 7 days to go, a few tickets are still available, just head the Ball page for more information.

Throwback Thursday – Clarity

#ThrowbackThursday

I first shared this in August last year but from the conversations I’m hearing I think it needs sharing again.

Clarity – clarity is absolutely everything, when life is throwing things at us and we become unclear everything is blurred, your vision, your judgement, your future, everything.

Are you clear on your vision?