This journey of ‘coming out’ has had so many twists and turns, I’ve lost many friendships who didn’t agree with my openness on this subject but at the same time, I’ve gained some incredible new friends who are supportive & caring unconditionally. I knew speaking out wasn’t going to be easy, I knew it was what I should do, I knew I need to do it , but, I was petrified. How could I be so terrified of letting others know that there is life after trauma?
What would everyone think of me? That was one of the questions that plagued my mind…
I have been living in fear for most of my life, I didn’t realise I was living in fear, I was too busy wearing a mask and pretending that I was ok….. but what does ok really mean?
I ask that question because that’s the question I have been asked time and time again…since I can remember. My answer remained the same for thirty-seven years …it was a lie that was killing me, strangling the life out of me inside.
5 years ago I made the decision to take off the mask and that day was the beginning of my true recovery.
To be honest the road to recovery takes a lot of energy and requires hard work, perseverance, forgiveness, determination, having a thick skin & self-belief. It’s not easy, there are constant challenges but it is achievable ….
With a good support system/network, a lot of self care and learning to take one step at a time, remaining in my present, NLP therapy, renewing my mind daily & trusting my faith in God, I was able to face the secrets, self hate, the shame & separation of my past to start creating and living a breathtaking life.
Speaking out and telling my truth is another part of the process of MY healing and restoration. I believe that unless we really start talking about the issues of abuse, exposing those who have perpetrated and challenging the judicial system it will continue in this vicious cycle.
Time is Up!
We cannot change the past but we can leave it behind, walk forward and embrace a breathtaking future with our heads held high. It’s time to live in the truth. Face the demons that have haunted our minds for so long; Conquer every fear, activate our power to live in the NOW.
We all have a responsibility to tell our stories, by doing so we empower others to tell their own stories and regain their life back too.
Together we are the Voice of Freedom, together our voices become the echo that brings down the walls of silence, shame, and separation. Together we are strong, together we are powerful, together we will become the voice that will rebuild, restructure and redefine the judicial system once and for all!
There is HOPE … let us rise together!
Read part of my story in this week’s issue of The Voice Newspaper
By: Marcia Dixon
Photography by: Joy Jobi
Support Network: Transformation Power House (Gee Abiah Patchett)
Reconnected Life (Emily Jacob)
To Purchase: To Report or Not yo Report Survivors Testimony of the (In) Justice System.
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Royalties to the charities chosen by the survivor-authors.
Web definitions “Limiting beliefs are beliefs that are held either consciously or subconsciously that serve as obstacles to manifesting and attracting what one wants, needs or desires. Limiting beliefs can have an incredibly negative or damaging effect on your life – causing you to suffer – for example – relationship problems, ill health, phobias fears and anxieties, and even mental and physical illnesses.”
By changing your limiting beliefs system means you are able to ‘Thrive’ by definition it means to grow or develop vigorously, to be successful, to flourish.
So wouldn’t we all want to change any limiting beliefs in our lives and live happy, contented, achieving what we want to achieve and enjoying life to the full?
Unfortunately it is often too easy to acquire a distorted way of thinking as we tell ourselves ” I cant, It wont work, Its too difficult, Im too embarrassed, Im a failure” ….is this your truth?
This is my truth…..
I have told myself for about 2 years that I could not write a blog because I didn’t think I had anything worth writing or saying….and no-one would be interested in reading what I have to say, i was embarrassed about my spelling and the level of my writing ability but here I find myself taking a leap of faith and shutting down those same limiting beliefs and stretching to my purpose.
But the truth is I have books upon books in my nook area which I have my writings, my thoughts my dreams and my life of which IS VERY INTERESTING !!!! (Well so I have been told)
The truth is I bought into that limit; I told myself it was true AND agreed with that limiting belief and became friends with it!!!
I realised that I was in agreement with the limiting belief so I changed that agreement by taking my power back ….
You see there is power in agreement!!!
None of us want to keep these beliefs, but we either think:
1. That’s just the way things are (everyone else agrees), or…
2. It’s become such a part of my identity that it’s too hard to change now
In order to solve the problem, we first need to realise that what is often seen as “just the way things are” is, in reality, just an assumption. And because it’s an assumption, it means that we decided to agree to make that assumption as well, on some conscious or unconscious level.
In that case, we need to RECLAIM our power, and choose to STOP agreeing. It can really be that simple.
LET ME BREAK THIS DOWN ….
If you think about how we were raised by our parents, they taught us to comb your hair, how to wash, clean our teeth, get dressed, ride a bike, cross the road etc. At school we were taught Maths, English, History, and a number of other subject.
But who taught us how to manage our THOUGHTS and our EMOTIONS?….. No-one! and no-one is remotely interested so we managed the best that we could and picked up a lot of bad thinking habits along the way.
It is very difficult to change anything in your life until you understand your thoughts & emotions and what you are about – what actually makes you tick, why you think the way you do.
What you think about yourself affects your thinking, and more importantly, what you BELIEVE about yourself effects how you see yourself and how you process information.
Changing Limiting Beliefs is not just about positive thinking,its actually so much more than that – its about re-training your brain to think differently, to take responsibility and live the life that you want, and should, be living to create a permanent change.
Identifying and changing your limited beliefs puts you back in control it allows you to take responsibility for what happens in your like and how you CHOOSE to let things affect you!
So what is the Changing Limiting Beliefs programme and how does it work? What does it consist of?
The CLB Programme usually consists of between 4-6 sessions that involve informal sessions that may at times be quite challenging to your beliefs. You will find it enlightening, informative, en-powering inspirational, and also at times ( hopefully) humorous.
The end result and goal is that you are taught a very simple technique to get your life the way that you WANT it to be, focussing on what you WANT to happen rather than what you fear MIGHT happen!
CLB Programme is available using SKYPE for trainees abroad who wish to change their life.
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At the beginning of the year, I focused on the power of pause and today I wanted to revisit the topic.
It’s been an exceptionally hard week. I’ve faced and overcome many challenges both personally & physically.
I have continually been blessed, some doors have been shut with padlock and key threw away and some massive doors have swung open. I have walked through these massive doors with the boldness I inherited from my Heavenly Father all to which he deserves the glory…
I stop and take a pause… To take stock, to put things into perspective, to reflect on my day, to consider what I have learned – You know one of those moments where everything just stops… I breathe …I am still… that is the power of pause…
And I hear these words in the picture below … My reply – No words … Just tears!!!