When your honest with your self you set yourself free
This poem is about a woman’s journey to free herself from Domestic Abuse
There is always a way out of tre darkness , just follow the light inside and be brave ❤️
He just went through my phone every time I was in the shower, Provoking fights that would last for hours, Always apologizing with a bouquet of flowers. He didn’t hit me. He just hated all my friends. Told me they were no good and that I should just stay in. He was careful to always remind me I was unworthy, And any time I spoke to a man, he would accuse me of being flirty. He laughed, saying no one else would ever love me, Making me feel nothing but useless and ugly. He didn’t hit me. He would just break my things on the rare occasions I decided to go out, Coming home to his aggressive shouts. He just deleted all my contacts who were men, Telling me to never speak to them again. He didn’t hit me. He just wouldn’t listen when I said no, Every day stealing a little more of my glow. He would criticize my appearance, Calling me stupid, every day weakening my resilience. He didn’t hit me. He would just threaten his own life when I would try to leave, A burden no 19-year-old should receive. He didn’t hit me. He just made me hate myself every day. Worried how the hell I would get away. He didn’t hit me. Until one day, he overheard a call. Hearing that I was leaving, he pushed me toward the wall. But, he didn’t hit me.
The Hope Gala Ball is raising money to help survivors of domestic abuse move forward. There’s only 7 days to go, a few tickets are still available, just head the Ball page for more information.
If you love music, inspiration, positivity and good energy …
You won’t want to miss the The Hope Gala Ball – The Masquerade Edition, along with “FORGOTTEN BLACK WOMEN HEROES” past and present. Bringing the community together, celebrating the ’75’ Platinum years of Windrush. It’s a Black tie dinner and dance
Fundraising for survivors of domestic abuse to empower them to take their power back and reclaim their lives!
Every ticket you buy helps & supports this cause!!
The funds from the ball, as mentioned above will go to help survivors of domestic abuse, this is all. done via GEM – The Global Empowerment Movement. GEM is a not for profit organisation that helps and supports women and girls to find practical solutions to overcome emotional challenges and provides life skills and tools to increase confidence and self-esteem, therefore allowing them to rebuild their lives and have a sense of wellbeing.
16th April 2020 – the world was locked down, in the early hours of the morning the police were called to speak to Denise about the revenge porn her estranged husband had posted. The officers took their notes and left at 1:30 – if only they’d done a quick search of the garden!
An hour later Denise had been doused in petrol and set on fire, she was rushed to hospital where she was pronounced dead.
Her estranged husband admitted in court to being controlling and jealous, he maintained that he hadn’t meant to kill her, even though a voice note he’d left her the evening before said “I really hope you suffer and die.”
His internet searched showed that he’d been searching for what is the best way to use a knife and kill someone, along with insanity in English law and cases where the insanity defence worked!
What frustrates me so much about this is it could all have been prevented if a police officer had done her job properly.
Denise first reported her ex in January 2020 for domestic abuse.
The officer involved cancelled interviews with Denise’s ex three times – she never spoke to him at all and then closed the case on April 6th, just 10 days before he took Denises life.
The officer involved in this case has lost her job, in the words of the IOPC for a shocking dereliction of duty. This officer failed Denise and Denises family, this happens way too often, she should have done more and taken Denises allegations seriously. She should have followed the reasonable lines of enquiry which her supervisor had set then maybe Denise would still be here today.
There is a perception that black women are strong and don’t need as much support, this is so WRONG.
We need the same amount of support as white women. We need to be seen and heard from a humanity stand point!
From my own experiences of dealing with the police for a personal matter if I was upset and emotional I had mental health issues, if I was calm and dealing with it I didn’t need support, I was damned either way.
My career has come full circle after leaving the DA, I’m working with a charity in London empowering woman & girls who are victims & survivors of domestic abuse to live better lives, in safety and learn to go from being a victim, to a survivor and find their true voice.