October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, it’s a time to shine a light into the shadows, to break the silence around abuse and to remind anyone living in fear that hope and healing are possible. That you can move from Silence to strength.
For too long, many of us have learned to keep quiet, to survive by silencing out pain, hiding the truth and shrinking ourselves just to stay safe. But silence, while it may protect us in the moment, also costs us something precious… Our Voice.
As a survivor myseld, I know that silence all too well. My story, now shared in my one-woman show Caught You In A Lie, is one of control, fear and isolation.. but also of courage, resilience and rebirth. The show tells the truth of what it means to survive abuse and how music, faith and self-expression became the keys that helped me heal and find freedom.
When I spoke my truth, I didn’t just survive I began to LIVE.
Yvonne performing in Caught You in a Lie in Bedford
🌱The Journey From Silence to Freedom
Healing from abuse is not a single step; it’s a journey. One that takes time, patience and compassion. It begins with safety, then slowly moves into self-discovery, finding who you are beyond the pain, beyond what someone else told you, you were.
For me that journey inspired the creation of a new programme called UnMUTed, a safe and empowering space for women to rediscover their voices, rebuild confidence, and transform their pain into purpose. I also acknowledge that men become muted to, and there is a version of UnMUTed for men, currently this is 1-1, but if I get enough interest I am happy to change to a group.
The truth is, when you’ve been silenced for so long, speaking again and being heard again takes courage. But every time you do, a part of your souls returns, you begin to feel free, strong and whole again.
Being UnMUTed is not about speaking out loud, it’s about reclaiming your truth, your body, your power and your joy.
🎭The Power of Storytelling
Through Caught You In a Lie, I’ve seen how storytelling can transform both the teller and the listener. every night, when the lights dim and the music begins, I see women in the audience nodding, crying, holding hands, realising they are not alone.
And that’s what awareness is truly about. Not just statistics or campaigns but connection. One voice inspiring another to speak. One story giving someone else permission to heal.
💜You Are Not Alone
If you or someone you know is living with domestic abuse, please know there is support available right now:
Help is just a phone call or message away. You are not to blame. You are not broken, You are not alone.
✨Finding Freedom
Thos Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I want to remind you that your story doesn’t end with survival. It continues with freedom, with healing and when you find your voice, when you become UnMUTed.
Because when one woman rises, she gives others permission to rise too,💜
🎭 Caught You In a Lie. A story of truth, resilience and freedom.
📍Watford – 25 Oct | 📍London – 15 Nov | 📍Luton – 21 Nov
I’m just adding the finishing touches to the UnMUTed programme, but if you would like to be the first to hear about it, or know someone you think it might benefit, there is a waitlist to join, and you’ll be the first to hear the news. Just sign up using this LINK. The UnMUTed group sessions are currently only for women, as I said before there is a version of UnMUTed for men, it’s currently set up to run 1-1, but if the interest is there I can change it to a group programme, by signing up to the waitlist I can gauge what the need is when it comes to the mens version.
✍🏽About Yvonne
Yvonne is an award-winning empowerment coach, singer, author and transformational speaker who helps people rediscover their confidence, voice and power after trauma. Through her live performances, coaching and upcoming UnMUTed programme, she inspires women to turn [ain into purpose and live boldly, unapologetically and free.
I was asked recently why does Caught You in a Lie Matter? Who is it the show for?
I was a little taken aback, I thought everyone would understand who it was for. I thought me keep talking about the show would make it obvious, but I didn’t follow what I tell my business clients, make it obvious, don’t assume people will understand what you mean, make it too obvious for them not to.
Why does Caught You in a Lie matter?
It matters because in an Office of National Statistics report dated November 2024, 2.3 million people aged 16 years and over (1.6 million women and 712,000 men) experienced domestic abuse, the results didn’t show any significant change from the prior year. But one thing to keep in mind is this is cases of reported cases, we don’t know how many cases go unreported, but in my experience in the work that I do and the work that my CIC does, there are far more that are unreported to the police the are reported. According to a report completed by Safeline in England Wales the number of people who experience sexual abuse and assault are:
Women – 1 in 4 have experienced sexual abuse
Men – 1 in 5 have experienced it
Children – 1 in 6 have been victims of sexual abuse
These numbers represent real lives affected by silence, stigma, and unspoken pain many left unseen and unheard. That’s why Caught You in a Lie matters.
Who should go and watch Caught You in a Lie?
It’s for every person who’s ever been silenced, dismissed or deceived. It’s as simple as that. In one way or another victims will experience all of this until they find their voice, and even when you have your voice and you can speak of what you’ve been through you might still be dismissed, or silenced.
Abuse often wears a mask, either charm, control, gaslighting, or all of the above and more. It silences voices, shatters confidence and isolates the soul. In some cases the people you expect to have your back sadly won’t. The people you trust to fight your corner might not. When you most need your community you might be sidelined by them, all of which can make you question yourself, your feelings, am I making more of what happened. If you’ve been there you will understand this and see yourself in this.
🎭CAUGHT YOU IN A LIE aims to breaks that silence and encourage people to start finding THEIR voice, SPEAKING their truth and moving from being a victim to a survivor and then onto thriving. Because if I can, so can you!
This production brings a voice to the voiceless, shedding light on a hidden pain and igniting hope in dark places.
It’s a call to remember:
💜You are not to blame. 💜Although you might feel it you are NOT invisible. 💜You are not alone.
Every performance opens space for truth, healing and real-life transformation.
Whether you’ve lived it, witnessed it or need to understand it, this story matters.
On Friday 20th September, Bedford will host something truly special: the very first performance on this tour of my one-woman musical play, Caught You In A Lie.
This show marks the beginning of a powerful tour, a journey of healing, truth-telling, and music that blends Lovers Rock, Gospel, and Soul to tell a story rooted in lived experience.
Why Bedford?
Starting the tour in Bedford holds deep meaning for me. This town has always carried a strong sense of community and resilience, and I couldn’t think of a better place to begin sharing this story.
Bedford will be the very first audience to experience this version of the play in full, to walk with me through heartbreak and hope, silence and song, pain and freedom.
What Caught You In A Lie Is About
It is my story. And it is the story of many others.
Caught You In A Lie explores the hidden wounds of abuse and trauma. Shares the lies we are forced to live with, along with the silence we carry, and with the shame that was never ours to hold.
It carries another truth: there is healing, along with hope, and also freedom when we find the courage to speak our truth.
Through music and testimony, the show creates space for survivors to feel seen, heard, and affirmed.
An Invitation
If you are in Bedford, or close by, I invite you to join me for this landmark night. Come along and witness the launch of a tour that I pray will bring light into dark places and courage to those still finding their voice.
🎭 Bedford – Friday 20th September The very first stop on the Caught You In A Lie tour.
The Journey Ahead
From Bedford, the tour will continue across the UK with stops in Watford, London, and Luton. Each performance is a chance to break the silence, to hold space for truth, and to celebrate healing together.
No more sweeping stories under the carpet. No more shame. We are speaking out. We are healing. We are free.
This past weekend, Pastor Mario invited me to speak at the Seventh-day Adventist Church in Holloway. I shared the service with my dear friend and sister, Diane Johnson, under the powerful theme: “End It Now!” It was an opportunity for me of speaking my truth
The message was clear and powerful: silence, shame, and secrecy must no longer have the final word in our lives.
Speaking My Truth Through Story and Song
During the service, I spoke about my one-woman musical play, Caught You In A Lie. The production draws on my own lived experience and tells the story of the lies and hidden truths that many people carry while living through trauma.
Survivors of domestic abuse, sexual abuse, bereavement, and other hidden pains often face pressure to stay silent. Too many of these stories end up swept under the carpet, leaving us with shame that never belonged to us in the first place.
But here is the truth:
You are not alone.
Your voice matters.
You have a story that deserves to be heard.
When we speak, write, sing, or perform our truth, we break chains.
Healing Through Truth
God does not call His children to live in silence or brokenness. He calls us to healing, wholeness, and freedom. Part of that healing comes when we stand unapologetically in our truth.
I created Caught You In A Lie for this reason — to take audiences on a journey of music, testimony, and storytelling. The show carries both heartbreak and hope, offering space for survivors to see their courage reflected and their healing affirmed.
Join Me on the Journey
I invite you to experience the show for yourself. Together, we will hold space for truth, healing, and freedom.
🎭 Upcoming Tour Dates:
Bedford – 20th September
Watford – 25th October
London – 15th November
Luton – 21st November
If you have carried your story in silence, know this: you are seen, you are loved, and there is hope.
No more sweeping things under the carpet. No more shame. We are speaking out, we are healing, we are free.
Whether spoken, written, sung, or performed, sharing our truth breaks chains.Here’s the link to my full talk at The SDA:
Web definitions “Limiting beliefs are beliefs that are held either consciously or subconsciously that serve as obstacles to manifesting and attracting what one wants, needs or desires. Limiting beliefs can have an incredibly negative or damaging effect on your life – causing you to suffer – for example – relationship problems, ill health, phobias fears and anxieties, and even mental and physical illnesses.”
By changing your limiting beliefs system means you are able to ‘Thrive’ by definition it means to grow or develop vigorously, to be successful, to flourish.
So wouldn’t we all want to change any limiting beliefs in our lives and live happy, contented, achieving what we want to achieve and enjoying life to the full?
ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!!
Unfortunately it is often too easy to acquire a distorted way of thinking as we tell ourselves ” I cant, It wont work, Its too difficult, Im too embarrassed, Im a failure” ….is this your truth?
This is my truth…..
I have told myself for about 2 years that I could not write a blog because I didn’t think I had anything worth writing or saying….and no-one would be interested in reading what I have to say, i was embarrassed about my spelling and the level of my writing ability but here I find myself taking a leap of faith and shutting down those same limiting beliefs and stretching to my purpose.
But the truth is I have books upon books in my nook area which I have my writings, my thoughts my dreams and my life of which IS VERY INTERESTING !!!! (Well so I have been told)
The truth is I bought into that limit; I told myself it was true AND agreed with that limiting belief and became friends with it!!!
What’s changed?
I realised that I was in agreement with the limiting belief so I changed that agreement by taking my power back ….
You see there is power in agreement!!!
None of us want to keep these beliefs, but we either think:
1. That’s just the way things are (everyone else agrees), or…
2. It’s become such a part of my identity that it’s too hard to change now
In order to solve the problem, we first need to realise that what is often seen as “just the way things are” is, in reality, just an assumption. And because it’s an assumption, it means that we decided to agree to make that assumption as well, on some conscious or unconscious level.
In that case, we need to RECLAIM our power, and choose to STOP agreeing. It can really be that simple.
LET ME BREAK THIS DOWN ….
If you think about how we were raised by our parents, they taught us to comb your hair, how to wash, clean our teeth, get dressed, ride a bike, cross the road etc. At school we were taught Maths, English, History, and a number of other subject.
But who taught us how to manage our THOUGHTS and our EMOTIONS?….. No-one! and no-one is remotely interested so we managed the best that we could and picked up a lot of bad thinking habits along the way.
It is very difficult to change anything in your life until you understand your thoughts & emotions and what you are about – what actually makes you tick, why you think the way you do.
What you think about yourself affects your thinking, and more importantly, what you BELIEVE about yourself effects how you see yourself and how you process information.
Changing Limiting Beliefs is not just about positive thinking,its actually so much more than that – its about re-training your brain to think differently, to take responsibility and live the life that you want, and should, be living to create a permanent change.
Identifying and changing your limited beliefs puts you back in control it allows you to take responsibility for what happens in your like and how you CHOOSE to let things affect you!
So what is the Changing Limiting Beliefs programme and how does it work? What does it consist of?
The CLB Programme usually consists of between 4-6 sessions that involve informal sessions that may at times be quite challenging to your beliefs. You will find it enlightening, informative, en-powering inspirational, and also at times ( hopefully) humorous.
The end result and goal is that you are taught a very simple technique to get your life the way that you WANT it to be, focussing on what you WANT to happen rather than what you fear MIGHT happen!
CLB Programme is available using SKYPE for trainees abroad who wish to change their life.
Lady YM Sinclair. CMCCH IIPCH
PPD Consultant & Hypnotherapist
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